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The Devastating Cost of
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LOW SELF-ESTEEM QUESTIONNAIRE

  1. I try to please others instead of myself.
  2. I don’t really know what I need, or if I do, I tell myself that it is not important.
  3. I find it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others rather than those done to myself.
  4. I anticipate other people’s needs.
  5. I feel best when I’m giving to others and uncomfortable or guilty when others give to me.
  6. I find myself attracted to needy people.
  7. I over commit myself.
  8. I blame myself for everything.
  9. I pick on myself for the way I think, feel, look, and behave.
  10. I reject compliments or praise.
  11. I feel different from most other people.
  12. I think I’m not good enough.
  13. I fear rejection.
  14. I take things personally.
  15. I feel like a victim.
  16. I tell myself I can’t do anything right.
  17. I am afraid of making mistakes.
  18. I feel a lot of guilt.
  19. I have a lot of “shoulds” in my life.
  20. I believe other people can’t possibly like or love me.
  21. I lose sleep over petty problems or other people’s behavior.
  22. I am afraid to let other people see who I am.
  23. I feel controlled by people or events.
  24. I try to say what I think will please other people.
  25. I don’t have the word “no” in my vocabulary.
  26. I avoid talking about myself.
  27. I think that most of what I say is unimportant or uninteresting.
  28. I make a lot of apologies.
  29. I let other people hurt me.
  30. I don’t trust myself, my feelings, my decisions, or other people.
  31. I am overly trusting of others before I actually get to know them.
  32. I am afraid of my own anger.
  33. I am afraid to make others angry.
  34. I lie to myself.
  35. I don’t remember the last time I felt happy, content, or peaceful with myself.
  36. I look for happiness outside myself.
  37. I desperately seek love and approval.
  38. I am afraid or uncomfortable being alone.
  39. I find myself seeking love from people who are incapable of loving.
  40. I try to prove that I’m good enough to be loved.
  41. I fall into serious relationships quickly.
  42. I stay in relationships that don’t work.
  43. I don’t say what I mean.
  44. I feel safer feeling hurt than angry.
  45. I have sex when I don’t want to.
  46. I find it difficult to have fun and be spontaneous.
  47. I remain loyal to people who have hurt me.
  48. I make lots of excuses for other people’s behavior.
  49. I often feel hopeless about the future.



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