LOW SELF-ESTEEM QUESTIONNAIRE

1. I try to please others instead of myself.
2. I don’t really know what I need, or if I do, or if I do, I tell myself that it is not important.
3. I find it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others rather than those done to myself.
4. I anticipate other people’s needs.
5. I feel best when I’m giving to others and uncomfortable or guilty when others give to me.
6. I find myself attracted to needy people.
7. I over commit myself.
8. I blame myself for everything.
9. I pick on myself for the way I think, feel, look, and behave.
10. I reject compliments or praise.
11. I feel different from most other people.
12. I think I’m not good enough.
13. I fear rejection.
14. I take things personally.
15. I feel like a victim.
16. I tell myself I can’t do anything right.
17. I am afraid of making mistakes.
18. I feel a lot of guilt.
19. I have a lot of “shoulds” in my life.
20. I believe other people can’t possibly like or love me.
21. I lose sleep over petty problems or other people’s behavior.
22. I am afraid to let other people see who I am.
23. I feel controlled by people or events.
24. I try to say what I think will please other people.
25. I don’t have the word “no” in my vocabulary.
26. I avoid talking about myself.
27. I think that most of what I say is unimportant or uninteresting.
    
28. I make a lot of apologies.
29. I let other people hurt me.
30. I don’t trust myself, my feelings, my decisions, or other people.
31. I am overly trusting of others before I actually get to know them.
32. I am afraid of my own anger.
33. I am afraid to make others angry.
34. I lie to myself.
35. I don’t remember the last time I felt happy, content, or peaceful with myself.
36. I look for happiness outside myself.
37. I desperately seek love and approval.
38. I am afraid or uncomfortable being alone.
39. I find myself seeking love from people who are incapable of loving.
40. I try to prove that I’m good enough to be loved.
41. I fall into serious relationships quickly.
42. I stay in relationships that don’t work.
43. I don’t say what I mean.
44. I feel safer feeling hurt than angry.
45. I have sex when I don’t want to.
46. I find it difficult to have fun and be spontaneous.
47. I remain loyal to people who have hurt me.
48. I make lots of excuses for other people’s behavior.
49. I often feel hopeless about the future.