Relationships Without Boundaries
When you give up your boundaries in a relationship, you:
- Are unclear about your preferences.
- Do not notice your own unhappiness since pleasing is your main concern.
- Alter your behavior, plans, or opinions to fit the current moods or circumstances of another (i.e., you live reactively).
- Do more and more for less and less.
- Take as truth the most recent opinion you have heard.
- Are satisfied if you are coping and surviving.
- Make exceptions for a person for things you would not tolerate in others.
- Are manipulated by flattery so that you lose objectivity.
- Try to create intimacy with a narcissist.
- See the other person as causing your happiness or excitement.
- Feel hurt and victimized but not angry with the other person.
- Act out of compliance and compromise.
- Do favors that you inwardly resist—you cannot say “no.”
- Often feel afraid and confused.
- Frequently become involved in dramas that are beyond your control or don’t involve you personally.
- Commit yourself for as long as the other person needs you to be committed.
- You don’t have a bottom line.